Does fear hold you back from doing what you really want in life? Do you overreact to spiders, people, situations or things irrationally? Are you worrying or stressing about upcoming family events, an upcoming meeting or call, the future, money, relationship, career or life generally? Do you suffer from performance anxiety and wish it would stop affecting you?
Let’s Get Clear About the Fear
Before you can effectively address the fear, first you need to acknowledge the type of fear it is – is it a past fear, a fear of, a phobia or anxiety. Here are some guidelines to assist you:
Fear is an emotion. Anytime we feel fear that is in proportion to the situation we are faced with, the emotion is appropriate for us. However, anytime we feel out of proportion fear it is a sign that the fear from the past is unresolved for us. If you find yourself overreacting to situations with fear or being held back from taking action because you are scared, you may have past fear to address.
In addition to past fears, some people have a fear of specific things or situations. Common “fear of” examples include: fear of success, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of public speaking, fear of being judged, fear of being alone, fear of being hurt, etc. These “fear of” are actually limiting beliefs rather than emotions, and can also hold us back from being, doing and having what we desire in life.
A phobia is an intense and irrational fear. It is a much more intense overreaction than past fear, and it is triggered by a specific animal, thing, situation or people. Most phobias, like fears and “fear of” can originate from our early childhood. People can have all types of phobias. The most common types of phobias include:
Arachnophobia: Fear of spiders.
Social Phobia: Fear of or the dread of social situations.
Aerophobia: Fear of flying or plane travel.
Agoraphobia: Fear of any place/situation where escape may be unavailable or complicated.
Claustrophobia: The fear of confined spaces or being trapped in small confined spaces.
Anxiety is worrying about what could go wrong or focusing on what could go wrong, rather than thinking about the event being a success. Performance anxiety occurs when we think about a meeting, call, speech, our sports performance, etc turning out anything other than a success. While the above types of fears all relate to past fears of one type or another, anxiety relates to future fear or worry. It is much easier to let go of severe anxiety once the past fears have been addressed first.
Letting go of past fears, phobias and anxieties
Once we identify the specific type of fear, it is then important to let it go. Fears, fear of, phobias and anxiety hold us back from living the life we desire. The best way to be free of the fear once and for all is to address it in a safe and comfortable way, without having to relive the fear of the past in order to let it go. We have many different NLP and Hypnotherapy techniques to assist you with addressing past fear, fear of, phobias and anxieties, so that you too can have the relationship, career, business, health and life that you desire!