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5 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence 

by Dr. Vesna Grubacevic

Do you have a pattern of:

  • attracting the same types of relationships that you don’t want;
  • beating up on yourself or putting yourself down;
  • procrastinating or taking inconsistent action;
  • second guessing or questioning yourself;
  • undervaluing yourself or your skills, products and services;
  • lacking clarity, passion or direction, personally or professionally?

Sabotage occurs any time we want to achieve something, but our actions, or lack of action, prevent us from being, doing or having what we want in life. This in turn has us sabotage our confidence, which further compromises our success.

From working with thousands of clients since 2000, and through my research, I have discovered that there are over 35 different ways that we can sabotage our confidence and success. The good news is that we can permanently stop the sabotage. Below are five ways of how you can that:

1. Stop being a worrier 

Because your thoughts can become self-fulfilling, if you continue to focus on what you don’t want, you will keep attracting it. By visualising exactly what you want each day, you can program your mind to attract more positive people, situations and opportunities into your life. Like attracts like. If you want to attract more positive people into your life, ensure that you are positive first.

2. Address your self-doubts and limiting beliefs 

If you believe that you cannot have or do not deserve to have what you really want, these beliefs will sabotage your success. Similarly, if you lack belief in yourself and your ability to do well, this will impact on your confidence and your actions. This is because our beliefs are reflected in our behaviours.

For example, if you have a fear of rejection, you may find yourself doing or saying things on the phone or in a meeting which has the other person respond with a ‘no’, and so they reject you anyway. The fear creates a self-fulfilling prophesy. Once you resolve these beliefs, you will change your behaviour and achieve greater success.

3. Resolve internal conflicts 

Some of us even have internal conflicts which pull us in different directions. For example, whether to pursue our passion and start a business or remain working for an employer, or whether to be in a relationship or stay single and independent. Once we resolve these, we become totally aligned with having what we want. As a result, we are more decisive, we stop wasting time and are more purposeful in our action. This in turn builds our confidence and success.

4. Have clear priorities 

Without priorities, you can be overwhelmed, as everything takes on the same importance or urgency. By being clear about your values and what is important to you, this will help to align and prioritise your actions for maximum results.

Think about and make a note of what is really important to you in your life right now. Then as you look at the list of priorities, ask yourself whether you are currently taking action towards those priorities. If not, you may need to adjust your beliefs and action to reflect your priorities. Remember, we take action on the things that are most important to us.

5. Define your direction 

Without clarity there can be confusion and lots of purposeless action. Not knowing what you really want in your life, career and relationships leads to scattered thinking, which results in scattered action and scattered success.

Instead, create a clear vision for your life (and where you want to be in five years, 10 years, etc) and then set specific short-term and long-term goals to help you get there. Remember to dream big because regardless of whether you focus on and take action on a small goal or a big one, you will achieve it. This vision and goals will guide your actions towards creating what you really want, and will drive and motivate you in life, especially during challenging times.

To further assist you with the above five tips so that you can achieve greater personal and professional success, help yourself to some free NLP resources (including a free chapter of our best-selling book, Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence).

You are also welcome to join us and learn the skills to help yourself and your clients to quickly and permanently address the above and more.

Dr. Vesna Grubacevic is an author (of the celebrity gifted and seven times Amazon best-selling book, Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence), speaker, media commentator, and the founder and Performance Transformation Expert® with multi award-winning company, Qt.  She holds a PhD, a BEc and is passionate about helping professionals and business owners to permanently improve their confidence and success.  As a Certified Trainer of NLP, Hypnotherapy and Qt respecti ®, she is also passionate about certifying successful practitioners and hypnotherapists, so that they too can empower more people to live fulfilling lives.

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