Afraid of Being Alone?
- Are you afraid or worried about being on your own?
- Is loneliness affecting your relationship with yourself and your partner?
- Do you feel alone in your current relationship?
Conquering loneliness
Feelings of loneliness and a fear of being alone are very common saboteurs to relationship happiness. A fear of being alone can lead us to adjust our behaviour unconsciously to avoid being alone.
The first step to conquering this fear is to identify if it is affecting your behaviour.
Which of these apply to you?
- You adjust your behaviour in your current relationship to be accepted by your partner so you don’t lose them
- You compromise what is right for you to stay in a relationship
- You hold back from speaking your mind in case it upsets your partner and they leave
- You stay in an unfulfilling relationship and justify staying (e.g. it is better than no relationship) to avoid being alone
- You settle for less than you desire just to have a relationship with someone
- You find yourself overreacting with emotion (e.g. go into a panic, feel overly emotional) when your partner requests space or to slow things down
- You get into any relationship to avoid being alone
- The irrational fear of being alone has you push your current partner away and so you end up being alone – the fear becomes self-fulfilling
- You feel alone even though you are in a relationship
The Impact of Fear
Our fears become self-fulfilling. After a while, we attract what we fear; our thoughts affect our behaviour. For example, people who fear rejection often say or do things to sabotage themselves. In turn, they are rejected.
Out of proportion fear (as well as other emotions and stress) has been shown to suppress the immune system, affect organ function and more. This is turn makes people more susceptible to ill health. There is more and more research showing the link between negative emotions, like fear, and our health and wellbeing.
Addressing your fear of being alone will improve your health, stop the sabotage, lead to more confidence, increased happiness and joy in your relationship and in life.
Give Yourself Permission to be Happy
Take some time out and be really honest with yourself about your current or desired relationship. Ask yourself:
- What type of relationship do I really want?
- What type of partner would fulfil my needs best in a relationship?
- What type of partner am I deserving and worthy of?
Once you are aware of exactly what you want in a relationship, you need to give yourself permission, and start taking action towards having what you really want. By the way, you can transform your current relationship, and create the relationship you really want.
Never settle for less than what you really want as any time you do, you send a very disempowering message to your unconscious mind that you do not deserve to have what you really want. In turn, this will sabotage you having what you really want.
How to Transform Fear into Happiness
You can quickly, safely and effectively let go of the fear of being alone, other fears, self-doubts and unconscious deeper core issues. And you can do this comfortably without having to relive the past or feel the emotions.
Discover how our inspirational clients:
- transformed her fear of being alone into happiness, confidence and success.
- successfully created the relationships they desired
- quickly and safely addressed their fears and self-doubts
Empower yourself with your free confidence and success boosting resources or reach out to Dr Vesna at vesna@qttransformation.com with any questions, and for a confidential reply
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