Feeling Out of Control?
Is your life, career/business or relationship feeling out of control? Would you like to know how to regain control?
Are You In Control?
Are you in control of your emotions? When you feel anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt, resentment, betrayal, loneliness, etc are these emotions in or out of proportion to the situation you are in? Do you take charge of your thoughts and are they mainly positive or negative? When a negative thought comes in, do you stop it or entertain it and allow it to spiral into more negative thoughts?
Are bad habits (eg. smoking, drinking too much, overeating, etc) controlling you or are you in charge of only positive behaviours and habits? Having answered these questions, do you feel like you are in control of yourself or not?
Whom/What Are Your Controlling?
Some people who feel out of control themselves, unconsciously seek to control other people. For example, by being a victim, getting angry, bullying, creating dramas, buying gifts, etc, they unconsciously create a dynamic where they are in control in that relationship. Other people who feel out of control, unconsciously seek to control things and their environment. For example, overeating, drinking too much, being addicted or obsessed by games, smoking, etc.
At the end of the day, these people are ultimately not in control of themselves. That is the real issue. Until that is addressed, they will keep creating the same dynamics with people, things and their environment.
Control versus Influence
You are personally responsible for four things: how you think, how you feel, how you act and how you influence others. Other people are also responsible for four things: how they think, how they feel, how they act and how they influence you and others.
When you start to focus on how you can control what others say, think and do, you are focusing on what is beyond your control. Because this is beyond your control and you want to control it, you may feel frustrated or angry about the situation eg. sitting in bumper to bumper traffic and being unable to control the traffic.
Instead, focus on what you can control – changing your thoughts, feelings, actions and communication. How can you take more charge of how you think, feel and act so that you are happier and more fulfilled in life? How can you improve your communication and avoid misunderstandings and conflict?
How to Regain Control
The first thing to realise is that people who trust themselves, trust others and the flow of life. Therefore, they find no need to control other people and situations. It is only people who have trust issues that feel the need to control others and situations. These people need to learn to trust themselves first in order to trust others.
Focus on you and taking charge of how you think, feel and act so you regain control of your behaviour and your life. Address past emotions, limiting beliefs and self doubts, so that you can take charge of creating a life, career/business, relationship you truly desire.
Because I am really concerned about everyone’s mental and emotional health during this time, I am offering you my personalised support. To help you to stop frustration, anger, stress and worry, and to regain control, you can book into a half price online video session with me. Simply email me for full details before 2nd May 2020.
Looking forward to continuing to empower you.
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